Don’t Lie to yourself – what do you believe?

Don’t Lie to yourself – what do you believe?


EVERY self-defense seminar I teach revolves around this concept: “don’t lie to yourself.”

We discuss it in the seminar, we talk about allowing false narratives to alter our perception of the world. We believe that we cannot be targeted and become a victim of crime, that crime doesn’t happen in our neighborhood, that the donut doesn’t have real calories, that one more beer is ok, and that our good works will get us to heaven. We lie to ourselves about our fitness, our capabilities, who our friends are, and how cool we are. These lies are typically beliefs and these beliefs alter the view we have on the world – they color every action, decision, and relationship we have. So, the question that has been on my mind is the this: how do we rewire our brain to correct erroneous beliefs, and what is the most important belief I hold?

As a result of my desire to increase my professional training and ability to share the message of safety with people, I have studied material from and attended seminars by Blauer Tactical, which is training from the life’s work of Tony Blauer. One of the best tools I have learned and adopted from this training is the Cycle of Behavior™. click here for Tony Blauer’s video of cycle of behavior. This tool breaks down, in a simple way, how our motivations, expectations, beliefs, and other critical things can affect our control of fear and how we process the data from the world around us. The often-identified primary function of the COB is how fear affects us, and as Coach Blauer says, “fear throttles everything”.  My initial understanding of this was that the COB was a tool to manage fear, and it is, but it is also a tool to identify sticking points (bias) in our view of the world.

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Who are you.

Tell me who I am to you.

There are few things more important than our identity. When someone calls your name, it feels good. When you are recognized by long lost friends, it feels good. People recognize us for what we do, who are parents are, our past, our reputation and other intangible things. Often, we act different ways around other people, trying to impress, trying to fit in, trying our hardest not to be ashamed.

In the first fifth of my life I was happy with who I was, proud of my parents and family and happy to be a Christian.

I spent the next two fifths trying to be what was expected, embarrassed by who I was, because I didn’t have the cool clothes, or the big money, I was often ashamed of who I was. My identity was not clear to me, and I was trying to ‘find myself’. I struggled with depression, addiction to pornography and sex, seeking happiness in alcohol and worldly distraction, trying to impress people that didn’t really care about me, working in unstable in my jobs, and a surface (at best) Christian.

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Then Jesus said to them, “Suppose you have a friend, and you go to him at midnight and say, ‘Friend, lend me three loaves of bread; 6 a friend of mine on a journey has come to me, and I have no food to offer him.’ 7 And suppose the one inside answers, ‘Don’t bother me. The door is already locked, and my children and I are in bed. I can’t get up and give you anything.’ 8 I tell you, even though he will not get up and give you the bread because of friendship, yet because of your shameless audacity[e] he will surely get up and give you as much as you need. (Luke 11 5-8)

So what are the actions in Jesus story? They are: SEE THE NEED. ASK. GET UP. OPEN THE DOOR. GIVE AS MUCH AS THEY NEED.

Let’s break this down. “Suppose you have a friend”. This implies that you have one… and how to we get friends? We meet them, we talk to them, we serve them, we go to their house when we are invited, they come to ours, you ‘do life’ together. You share victory and defeat, crisis and opportunity.

When your friend shows up at midnight, seeking help (loaves for travel=road trip snacks?) for someone else, Jesus showed two ways this can go:

Option 1 – You can be a jerk (I am certain this was in the original text) and deny your friend the loaves.

Option 2You can get out of bed and give them what they need. Continue reading “OPEN HANDS”

The third monkey

Hey folks. Welcome back to the textualization of my brain.

We just spent the last four days training at the blauer combatives camp and personal defense readiness coaches clinic. This was the most professional, productive and painful training I have ever attended. The Blauer staff is unsurpassed in their skill and passion for sharing safety concepts and tools, and they are a blast to spend time with.

I look forward to spending time with you teaching what we learned from the camp. I am going to bullet point a few items of interest from the camp.

#1 You need a personal directive. It must be personal, passionate and present.
#2 You are faster, stronger and more intuitive than you think.
#3 You can retrain and enhance your brain’s abilities.
#4 You have been created in amazing fashion, you are so much more capable than you think.
#5 If you use your body correctly, you are a legit human weapon.

If you noticed the title of this, here is the application: fight like you’re the third monkey on the ramp of the ark, and brother, it's starting to rain. When you are challenged by life, by violence, or stressed out and struggling - bring all that indignation to bear and say not today, not my house, not my body.

Don't allow fear to stop you. Learn to manage the fear, define it, inoculate yourself against it and move through it. Coach Tony Blauer says ”fear throttles everything” speeds you up, slows you down, stops you. Living in fear can be intrusive, it can stop your success, it can cause anxiety, long-term physical and mental health problems. Fear can cap your income, decide who you marry, decide if you reach out to a stranger in need, stop you from cutting off a ’friend ’ who steals up your happiness and energy or stop you from taking a self-defense class.

For those of you who have always said that you want to take a self-defense class, or firearms safety class and have not - how much commitment do you really have to your ability to personal safety? Is fear stopping you from choosing safety?

Welcome to where you are!!

Welcome everyone!!

So this is a totally new thing, but we will be adding regular words here, some of the bigger than others.

Today, as we are hashing through our new website, we have worked on the definitions of self defense and martial arts.

If you don't know us, come meet us. We would love to meet you! Our mission is to prepare you for the unexpected. We will train you to the best of our ability,
and teach you what we have learned about violence and self defense.

We will be spending a weekend at the Blauer combatives camp and Personal defense readiness camp soon, in an effort to provide you with the best, most comprehensive and professional training possible.

Thank you for checking us out!

We are excited to meet you.

In Service of the King